Kinky Restraints: An Introduction to Spreader Bars

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Spreader bars are a popular sex toy used by people who enjoy BDSM. As the name implies, they are designed to spread the wearer’s legs which leaves them immobilised and unable to resist their dominant partner’s desires. They can also be used to spread one’s arms instead but they are predominantly used on the legs to also restrict movement. This article will cover all the basics of spreader bars, such as the different components of a spreader bar, how they are used and the safety considerations you should keep in mind when using them,

What makes up a spreader bar

Spreader bars are typically made using metal or wood, with cheap ones using plastic instead. Spreader bars are also quite convenient to use, as the bar itself is the main component. Spreader bars will either have cuffs attached to them at the ends, or attachment points for you to connect your own cuffs. Some spreader bars even come with four cuff attachments, allowing you to have complete control over your submissive.

You can also find spreader bars that don’t use cuff attachments and instead use rope to fix the bar onto your submissive. Some spreader bars will also feature additional attachment points, like rings or hooks, which can be used for suspension play or to attach bondage accessories.

How to use a spreader bar

The most important thing to do before using your spreader bar, or participating in any form of BDSM, is communicating with your partner. Discuss boundaries, safe words/signals and anything else you want to do while using the spreader bar. Consent is mandatory.

Attaching the spreader bar is straightforward, especially when using one that utilises cuffs. All you will need to do is spread your partner’s legs, position the spreader bar in between their feet and then attach the cuffs to their ankles.

Once the spreader bar is properly attached to your submissive, you can now begin to enjoy what you’ve planned for the night. This can include activities such as impact play, edging, forced orgasms and more! You can get creative here, or even ask your submissive if they have any ideas.

Considerations when using a spreader bar

Spreader bars can be fun to incorporate into your sex life when used correctly, but here are some things to be wary of to make sure that you and your partner can enjoy the night safely:

  • When attaching the cuffs, make sure they aren’t too tight or too loose to avoid ruining the moment. Loose cuffs can result in your partner accidentally or intentionally slipping out of the spreader bar, while tight cuffs can cause discomfort and potentially injury.
  • Make sure your partner’s legs are comfortable after the spreader bar has been attached. If their legs cramp up because they were locked into an awkward position, they may not want to try using a spreader bar again.
  • Communicate throughout your session to make sure they are still okay with using the spreader bar, as well as whatever you’re doing to them while they are restrained. There can be times where a partner is uncomfortable but not to the point where they would use a safe word. Open communication will give them the opportunity to adjust the cuffs or swap positions to something more comfortable.
  • Try not to cheap out when getting a spreader bar, as you may end up purchasing a product of inferior quality. This will keep you safe from spreader bars that don’t function properly and ones that can potentially break during use, which could injure your partner.

Conclusion

Spreader bars are a great tool to use in BDSM play, as they conveniently spread your submissive’s legs while restricting their movement at the same time. This gives you easy access to their body, with no way for them to resist. This makes them great for use when exploring other fetishes as well, such as impact play. Communication is vital to make sure that you don’t cross any boundaries and that your partner is still comfortable with what you are doing to them, as they may change their mind in the middle of the session. With all of this in mind, spread those legs apart and let the fun begin. Peachy BDSM has a huge range of the best spreader bars and BDSM toys on the market so check out our selection today.