Handcuffs in the Bedroom: A Beginner's Guide to Safe and Fun Bondage Play

three pairs of different types of handcuffs - fluffy, rose gold and chrome metal

Handcuffs are commonly used by law enforcement as a restraint device, however they are also commonly used in BDSM play or for specific roleplay. While handcuffs can be an exciting addition to spice things up in the bedroom, it’s important that you know how to use them properly as they can be dangerous when misused. Here are some tips on how to safely use handcuffs in the bedroom.

Choosing the right handcuffs

With a wide variety of handcuffs being sold, you can find anything between cheap novelty handcuffs to high quality cuffs that even police officers could use. When picking a pair of handcuffs for bondage, it is important to choose high quality cuffs that are designed for bondage. Look out for handcuffs made with steel or metal, avoiding cheaper pairs made using plastic or ones that look like a toy as they are more likely to break and ruin the moment. Peachy BDSM stocks a wide range of handcuffs designed for comfort and durability so check out our options today. 

Communicate with your partner

Before using the handcuffs, it is important to have a talk with your partner about what you both want out of the bondage session and what you are comfortable with. Discuss boundaries and establish a safe word or signal that can be used to let your partner know that you need to take a break or stop using the handcuffs completely. It’s also recommended to keep communicating throughout the session to make sure your partner is comfortable and enjoying the handcuffs.

Not too tight

Don’t make the handcuffs too tight when putting them on. If handcuffs are too tight they can be uncomfortable or even painful to wear, which can lead to bruising and possibly nerve damage. Finding the perfect tightness will ensure that your partner can’t slip out of the cuffs during your session if they are too loose. Communicate with your partner to make sure that the handcuffs aren’t causing pain or discomfort throughout the session.

If you think that your partner doesn’t realise the handcuffs are too tight, you can keep an eye out for their hands and fingers. If they start to change colour, they will need to be adjusted or immediately removed to restore circulation.

Don’t leave your partner unattended

When using handcuffs, it is important to not leave them alone while they are restrained. If you need to leave the room, make sure to release them before you leave. If you are given explicit consent that your partner is okay with being left alone with the handcuffs on, check that the handcuffs aren’t causing discomfort or pain before you leave.

Have an emergency plan

Accidents are always a possibility that you should plan for. Sometimes handcuffs can get jammed or stuck, or you may lose the key. Make sure you have a spare key, knowing exactly where it is, and that you have something around that can forcibly remove the handcuffs just in case they get jammed and the key can’t be used to unlock them.

Look after your handcuffs

Like with all sex toys, it is important to take care of your handcuffs by cleaning them afterwards. Warm water and soap will be fine for most cases, but you can use stronger cleaning agents like diluted bleach or rubbing alcohol if you need to disinfect them. Allow them to dry properly before storing them.


In summary, handcuffs can be a fun and exciting addition to sexual play, but it's important to use them safely. Choose high-quality handcuffs, communicate with your partner, don't apply too much pressure, check for circulation, have a backup plan, never leave your partner unattended, and clean and sanitise the handcuffs after use. By following these tips, you can ensure a safe and enjoyable experience for both you and your partner.

It is important to know what you’re doing if you want to add handcuffs to your collection of sex toys. By following our tips for picking the right handcuffs, using them safely and looking after them, you won’t have to worry about your partner getting injured or having the cuffs break on you during your session. The most important thing is to communicate with your partner regularly to ensure that you are both enjoying the experience.