BDSM Guide to Urethral Play


Urethral play, also known as sounding, is a lesser known kink for people who really want to explore every part of their body. With the increase of people being open about their sex life, people started to discover the unique, intense sensations that you can only get from urethral play.

If you are interested in trying out sounding, keep on reading. You will learn all about the basics of sounding, the right toys and tools you will need and how to keep yourself safe.

What is the Urethra?

The urethra is a thin tube found at the lower opening of the bladder that extends outside of the body. Most people will think of men, or a penis, when they hear about a urethra but women have them as well.

How Does Urethral Play Work?

Urethral play is pretty simple, all you have to do is insert a sounding toy into your urethra, which will stimulate the nerve endings that can be found there. For men, going deep enough into the urethra will enable them to directly stimulate their prostate as well.

Urethral Play Toys

As the urethra is quite small, there are limits to sounding toys available to use.

Some of the toys used in urethral play and sounding are:

Penis Plug

Penis plugs are generally good choices for beginners. They are smaller, not penetrating too far into the urethra, with something at the end of it to stop you from inserting the toy completely inside.

Sperm Stoppers

Sperm stoppers are essentially a cross between a penis plug and a glans ring. The ring is fitted around the glans of the penis, after which you can insert the stopper part of the toy. Although sperm stoppers are good for beginners, most of them are too small for you to be able to explore much urethral play.

Urethral Sounds

Urethral sounds are popular among sounding enthusiasts, as they are usually a lot longer and larger than penis plugs and sperm stoppers. They can be long enough to reach your bladder through the urethra, and come in different shapes and sizes.

Although there are some urethral sounds for beginners, you should definitely have a look at penis plugs and sperm stoppers first if you are new to urethral play.

How to Sound

Select the Right Toy

Make sure you aren’t too bold with your sounding toys, start as small as possible and work your way up when you have become more experienced with urethral play.

Apply Lubricant

Use a small dental syringe to inject sterile lubricant into your urethra, as well as coating your chosen sex toy with the sterile lube too. Applying lubricant to the inside of your urethra may be uncomfortable at first, but will make the sounding go a lot smoother.

Insert Your Chosen Toy

Follow these steps to make sure that you insert your sounding toy correctly:

  • Align the tip of your chosen toy with your urethra after applying lubricant to both.
  • Very gently apply pressure to insert the toy into your urethra. This shouldn’t cause discomfort if you are using a small, well lubricated toy. Do not force the toy into your urethra and stop if you start to experience pain.
  • Slowly sound deeper, taking breaks to relax yourself and become familiar with having a sounding toy inside your urethra. Don’t hesitate to reapply lubricant if you think you need more.
  • If you want to penetrate deeper, try changing the angle of insertion. Make sure you do this gently and slowly to avoid hurting yourself. Reapply lube if you can feel friction, or take a quick break if it starts to become uncomfortable.
  • Once you are comfortable with the toy being in your urethra, you can start to push it in or out, or begin pleasuring yourself with it inside you.


If you keep your sounding toy inserted, you will most likely experience a dry orgasm. Do your research if you would like to do this, otherwise you should gently remove the toy before you reach your climax. Enjoy your first sounding induced orgasm, you’ve definitely earned it.

Cleaning Up Afterwards

Using the toilet after sounding is important, as you need to expel all the lubricant that is now in your urethra. This will also get rid of any bacteria that may have accumulated in your urethra during your session. You may experience soreness but it shouldn’t last long if you have done everything properly.

Benefits of Urethral Play

Here are some benefits to urethral play:

Exceptional Sensation

Urethral play provides a unique sensation for people who try it. Although it will take time to become comfortable with sounding, those who do it will tell you it’s worth every second. The only way to find out is to give it a try, so you can know for yourself if you’re missing out on something amazing.

Enhanced Climax

As urethral play has the potential for direct prostate stimulation, it can create intense climaxes. You may also feel stronger climaxes as the nerve endings in your urethra haven’t been stimulated before.

Risks Associated With Urethral Play


Urethral play can cause irritation if you don’t use enough lubricant or use the wrong type of lubricant.

Infection of the Urinary Tract

Injuring the delicate tissue found inside your urethra during sounding can cause a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection), infection, and bleeding.

Retrograde Ejaculation

The urethra is used for both urination and ejaculation. A retrograde ejaculation is where semen enters the bladder instead of being expelled through the urethra during an orgasm. Although this isn’t harmful, it can be a cause of infertility in men.

Safe Urethral Play

Start Slowly

When using any sex toy that requires insertion, start slowly and build your way up. This is even more important for sounding as the urethra is narrow.

Only Use Sterile Lubricant

There are a wide variety of lubricants available for sex, but you should only be using medical grade sterile lubricant for sounding. This will help prevent you from getting an infection.

Ensure that it does not contain glycerine as well, as this can trigger an allergic reaction in the urethra for some people.

Going Too Deep

If you know what you’re doing, this is no problem. Beginners should be very cautious when sounding, slowly going deeper to avoid injury.

Be Aware

During sounding, you may experience feelings of ecstasy or discomfort. Pay attention to what causes these feelings, so you can replicate techniques that bring you pleasure. This will help you become good at urethral play over time.

Can Someone Get Injured From Urethral Play?

If you are new to urethral play, you may feel discomfort or pain. Ensure that you start slowly and use lots of lube to make sounding as enjoyable as possible.


Urethral play is not something you go into and enjoy without prior experience or research. For it to be safe and fulfilling, you must study and plan for it - this article has provided every information you need for the research.

If you want to increase the urethral toy sizes you use, do that progressively to widen your urethra because inserting too long toys in a tiny urethral canal can lead to pain or tear.

Suppose you experience difficulty or pain while inserting the toy, pause and try again later. It should slide in easily, and remember to use enough lube.

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